22/03/2010 The plan and what happen....

Last week, I was amazing busy. A lot of things happened, a lot work was done and there were continous parties, too.
FUnny thing is: whatever you plan... it will be different. Therfore, you could say, societies with a high uncertainity avoidance spent a lot of time and effort for... nothing. It will be different.
Germans belong to that group. And I love my plans. But sometimes I am happy if they do not come true...
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15/03/2010 Being single again

This morning has had 3 suprises for me:

1. A picture of my boyfriend with some lipstick. (I guess it is the same lipstick as the skinny girl with the faked boobs next to him is wearing)
2. A post on Facebook that my boyfriend is single now
3. Tons of snow

I mean, I am not stupid. I could imagine that he is not always busy by his studies. And I was from moment -2 (not from moment 0) doubting if our relationship will be successful (As we remember, I refused his first 3 proposals, because I did not believe in it). And I was thinking about splitting up since almost one month. But I was really suprised, that a man, giving a formal proposal use the facebook status to terminate a "serious, sustainable realtionship".

I mean, even I was not that mean... But maybe this are this intercultural differences... I do not know what I have to think about all the actions in the last 2 months. We have had very big problems by daily toipics (who cares how much, what are expectations from us, what is the goal from the other...) There were some arguments, which suprised me, because I did not seen my fault. On the otherhand, he also often did not understand why I was reacting in a special way. Sad, that we will never find out.

So, but talking about my feelings: Do I feel hurt? - Not really. I mean, we have had a nice time, nothing is lost. Do I feel confused? - Defently! I mean, I did not asked him for a relationship... Why are you demanding something, which you just dump some weeks later? Do I feel sad? - Yes. But not about loosing him, not about beeing dropped this "innovative way", not about having lost my love. It is more, I am sad that it was not working out. - Tick Tack - Sad, that this dream to join his family dispers. - Tick Tack - Sad, like with a not successfull project. - Tick Tack-. Does this feelings confuse me? Maybe. No. For sure a bit. And than this "Tick Tack" - Tick Tack - ... Will I ever have a nice "serious, sustainable" relationship? - Tick Tack -

But after all, I am not sad, I am not angry, I feel like I ever feel. I enjoyed the half meter of new snow, I enjoyed my walk in the sun, I enjoyed the group work, I enjoyed my swimming training. (In special, I enjoyed being upgrade in a better league... here are some delicacy)

Regarding to my task to write a diary ... I know what to write today. This topic is since long time in my head. Everywhere in Warsaw is a poster. I do not understand it in detail, but so much: Bartek is 20 years old and missed. I look on this poster, showing a smiling young man, who reminds me to an very good friend of mine. And I get immedetely sad. I feel with his family, I feel their worries, their sadness, their hope, their fear. And suddently, every thing is simple. Forget about intercultural values and communication and ethnocentric blablabla. All people around the world are simple and the same: They just want to be loved and wants their loved ones to be happy and well. This is all. So simple.

02/03/2010 Learning about Cultural Differences

Staying with 2 polish girls in a room is harder as thought. Those girls are completely different to what I have in experience with russian, ukrain or german girls. This is best shown by the care they give to others and how they respect privacy or keep their own privacy.
In some things, there are very generous and open, in other things most close. Funnily, they behaver is complete different to what I would do or expect.
All the things of the others can easily be uses: The PC, the hairthings, plates, kittchenstuff and so on. Very nice. Normal things like changing clothes is a big issue. I have never seen one of the girls half naked, or in underwear. If they change the slip, they put first the other clothers on, than they change the underwear. On the other hand, they have no problems to have some sexy time with their boyfriend, which is kind of disturbing me, if I also want to be in my room to do some work. They also see no problem with drying the hair at 1 o'clock in the night, when others want to sleep, or to ignore the alarmclock at 5:00 in the morning as long as all others are awake. And than to ensure, no one is sleeping anymore: she puts all the lights on and is noisy! I have no clue how long I can rest with 4 hours sleep per night.
Those girls are also very communicative. There are always some friends, so that in average there are 5 people in our 12 sqm room. They are loud discussing, ordering pizza, or and watching movies. That others (I) ight have a need to sleep or the wish to change the clothers, cream myself after a shower, study, watch a movie or something else... I guess there is no awareness.
Also in general life issues, you can see a very different perspective on things:
They are very catholic and we have had long discussions about marriage, loyality and cheating partners. Completely different view! The polish girls think, that a girl can the same work aas a man, and that the couple stay together until the end of their life. Men do not cheat if the wife gets old and fat or uggly, because those men also get old. And if men cheat their women, if they are pregnant, this would be unfair. (jaja, life is always fair - hahahaha)
I really hope the polish life will stay like that... but it is hard to me to believe, this is true :D